Life for most of us should be pretty good for the most part. But for so many that’s simply not true Negative statements from others and yourself about you erode your self worth. Are you being held back from success because of what others have said to or about you or worst yet, what you have said about yourself. When doubt creeps in, it brings us down by lowering our confidence and self-esteem. Being afraid of failure is the most common fear we have.
Are you letting fear control your life? Self-talk will help you to do anything you want when your use positive thinking, on the other hand, negative thinking can prevent you from doing anything you want. The choice is yours. Overcome fear systematically with self-talk. Once you realize what is causing your fear, you can move to self-talk techniques to change the situation..
First let me share what self-talk is not. It’s not some mumble jumble. We do it all the time but we just don’t know it. Unfortunately, most of our natural self-talk is negative. Most of us believe in positive thinking, and that’s good. But deciding to only think positively for the rest of your life won’t work. After all we’re all humans and bound to slip up every now and again. But positive thinking can work if your negative thoughts are immediately replaced with positive one. Wanting to be a positive thinker isn’t enough, having a positive attitude isn’t enough. You need the positive words to go along with it. What I’ve learned about self-talk is it’s not hypnosis or subliminal but a repletion of the positive ideas concepts and affirmations that you say, or listen to over a period of time.
Let me give you a couple of examples. Instead of getting out of bed in the morning and saying “I wish I didn’t have to get up,” with your new self-talk say “it’s a great day to be alive”. Or for those of us that have to make cold calls instead of saying “I’d really don’t feel like making calls today,” with your new self-talk try saying “I excited to make these calls because I know I will make a great new connection today”. Remember your rephrasing your old self-talk with new ones. One more example so I know you get the picture. Instead of saying “I’m so tired today I feel like going to bed”, with your new self-talk say “I have a lot of energy today”.
Now the changes won’t happen immediately or overnight. This will take some practice and skill to change your thinking and mindset. When your with another person you might want to use self-speak silently, when alone you can feel free say it out loud or even have a conversation with yourself. But remember when you find yourself getting off track by negative thoughts creeping in regroup and get right back on path.
Use positive thinking and self-talk to reprogram your mind to think positive. Don’t let your conscious and subconscious mind tell you that something can’t be done. If you use self-talk, you’ll soon learn that you can do anything you want and succeed by being positive. Use positive thinking and self-talk to stay in control. Tell yourself that when you master confidence and self-esteem you can master anything.
If this was helpful let me know. Add a comment in the comment area below this sentence. Let me know if there’s anything else you’d like to know about self-talk.
dr.o.r.kalantri says
fear of throat taking in side voice or my own or mind throght cant distingish each other voices. self voice or mind .please help me,fear of myself lack of self confidance.thanks
Gokul says
Very good article. But I have few questions.
1. Do I need to repeat my self-talk within the same day? In other words Morning/Afternoon/Evening I need to repeat the same sentence (across days) to reap the benefits of self-talk?
2. Is this self-talk should be linked with visualization also? Or without visualization it will work?